Faithful Courtship II

June 5, 2016 Speaker: Paul Sanders Series: Song of Songs

Topic: Song of Songs Passage: Song of Solomon 2:14–3:5

Song of Songs 2:14-15

Foxes are the threats and obstacles to blossoming relationship.

Foxes to Catch…                                                                                                              Unresolved anger.                                                                                                            Resentment and bitterness.                                                                                                 Temperament and personality

Life Backgrounds

Do we sit down to eat dinner?
What time will we go to bed?
What are the expectations of responsibilities of husband and wife that we grew up observing?
Was your family homes random, open, closed or somewhere in-between.
How was conflict handled in our former homes?
How will we discipline children?
How many children are we open to having?
What about fostering and/or adoption? Is that something we are praying about?
What will the family budget be?
What debts is one incurring prior to marriage that they are bringing into marriage?
How will holidays be spent?
What are the expectations and demands of each family that will

More Foxes…Issues of pain

Discerning one another’s goals

What do we intend to build together?

Are our priorities knowing Christ, growing in Christ and serving Christ?

Do we agree Biblically and Theologically on the critical categories?

What will be our Church home?

Song of Songs 2:16-17

Do you know what catching the foxes and tending to the vineyard that is your relationship produces?

First, these two are convinced even further they belong together.
The language spoken here is covenantal. My beloved is mine and I am His.

Song of Songs 2:17

Intimate desire is increasing.

Song of Songs 3:1-4

Song of Songs 3:5

Do not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.

Prospero: Then take my daughter, both as my gift to you and as something you have earned.
But if you have sex with her before the marriage ceremony takes place, the heavens will not bless your relationship, but will overwhelm you with hate, contempt, and discord, and will poison your marriage bed so that you both grow to loathe it. So be careful, and make sure you respect the holy institution of marriage.

Ferdinand: I want peace, good kids, and a long life. To protect the love I cherish, I won’t be tempted by any opportunity to forget my honor and give in to lust. I refuse to give up the joys of my wedding day, when I’ll be so eager for my first night of love that I’ll wonder whether evening will ever come.

Now how does Christ meet us in our text today?

We have blown it!

God says,
I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten… Joel 2:25a
Jesus is in the restoration business. He can restore and renew what has been lost.

Likewise, He promises to you that He will never leave nor forsake you.

And One day He is to return for His bride, that where He is we may also be.

And so we proclaim His sacrifice for sins, until He returns.

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